I want to withdraw my first response to your op (but leave it on the thread so readers aren't confused), because I misread/ mistook your premise. What I read in #2 was not what you actually wrote, -snip-
Difference bolded; different meaning than what you wrote.
But I'd still choose the million.
Fair enough!
Maybe this clears things up a bit more...we were discussing accurate criticism of self, by others, it's use and value. My postings regarding this were not off the topic of the thread.
Yes, there are all sorts of little divergences and entertainments and jokes that take place on a thread, much as at a dinner party with lively discussions and conversation largely flowing around or coming back to one main topic. It's what makes these threads interesting and fun, I think. Also helps to keep us all from getting too serious.
I realize Alanzo has a bit of a hidden agenda of a sort here, but that's o.k., I love him anyway and will happily play along as I feel that the topic is a useful and sufficiently general one to benefit many. Especially when you consider how much unfair mud is flung in the faces of COS members by COS admin, as we are largely a board of Exes and Critics.
I think I understand you better now, Olska, especially since you feel you are getting plenty of criticism here on ESMB (not necessarily the useful, accurate kind! Sorry to hear that.) Thanks for elaborating.
I guess I wondered if you were just chiming in to say how stupid you thought Alanzo's post was, for the sake of flaming him (I consider that trolling behavior; disruptive, rude, unproductive negative comments on others' writing) or if you had something to contribute to the conversation, and it turns out you did, and do.
Thank you!
For instance, if a person REALLY thinks the premise of a thread is stupid, why bother to post on it at all? Why not go play on another thread that appeals to you more? I think that's what I was questioning. That's all. I'm not really calling you a troll!
Does this fully answer your question?
For Finally Me:
Originally Posted by SweetnessandLight
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If someone calls me a "turkey", and I know I'm not a turkey...is it a true or realistic criticism of my actions or behavior that I should take on board and utilize? --- snip ---
But what if you ARE a turkey? Alanzo's question posited that the stranger "accurately" critized you -- what if that person pointed out something true about you which you had not previously recognized?
I think I already answered that earlier in saying:"However, if someone (friend or foe) calls me out on some destructive action or lack of constructive action or obtuseness on my part, that I need to take responsibility for, then I want to hear it...even if the hearing of it is painful."
Let me rephrase this here: What if somebody called me "stupid" and I
know that I am not stupid? I was talking about selecting which criticisms might be accurate and which to take to heart, based on that accuracy..."Know Thy Self"...some of us do know ourselves pretty well, after much long study and patient labor (hard work)!
Nexy, clearly I am not a turkey....a peacock, maybe!!!