IMMORTAL
Patron Meritorious
Examples of "mindsets" that I've discovered, which I believe originated and existed thanks to that wonderful "body of knowledge" whistling :
- "I have to *handle* this".......rather than feeling I have a choice, and that the decision is mine as to whether or not I *want* to handle it.
- "I know about it, I can maybe have influence, so I *have* to take responsibility".......which produces feelings of guilt if I don't act.
- "Why do I pull this shit in all the time, where am I going wrong?".........as opposed to having understanding that if you're out there playing with fire, you'll get burnt on occasion.
- "I'm being selfish"..........as opposed to feeling ok about taking care of myself.
- "I can't show how I really feel, I have to maintain a strong front".........instead of trusting and reaching out for help and support when I need it.
Examples of "tools" I use:
- Get to the source of the problem rather than find some band aid type solution which will only cause another problem.
- General principal of third party.........Pull the strings and get the truth on the table.
- Basic auditing series ( first get in comm, then ya can do something for the pc).....Before ya can help anyone, you've got to get "in comm", look at and understand their perspective, otherwise you won't discover what could or would be actual help for *them*.
- Pan determinsm.......Step back and look at all perspectives, otherwise there'll be valid aspects that ya won't see, and you're likely to make the wrong decision.
The above is only a snippet, but hopefully it'll help ya understand what I mean. Good luck with sorting it all out.........I've been working pretty hard at this for months and months now, and geez, there's still a ways to go.
Yup, ok. Got it. Sigh. I'm going through pulling apart the same kind of stuff. Regaining my power of choice, my own determinism. Thanks again.