I quite like her, okay, her boobs might not be real and she could do with another kg or two,but she has been blessed with a gorgeous figure-she has HIPS. I had to wait til I had my daughter for those!
Bless those extra female hormones!!
I really needed this thread.
It never occurred to me that my stint on staff might have desexed me. I thought it had been due to being skinny all my life.(being told somewhere along the line, that nobody likes a bag of bones.)
I was a size 10 ( 8 apparently, in todays measures) from the time I left high school and even after 3 kids, still managed to stay that way.
I did get a more fuller figure at one point,but lost it all when my previous partner died. I am half way back to that after 6 years.
I dont remember when I started to just accept compliments,it could well have been whilst on staff, probably out of sheer desperation for some form of admiration.
Now,I am 'content in my own skin' mostly.
I dont consider myself to be particularly feminine. Having had no extra money to buy 'nice' clothes or makeup for so long, so I could make sure my kids had what they needed. ( I told them, my job was to give them the basics, extras like designer labels and cell phones, they had to provide for themselves- made them hungry, so they got jobs to buy things that werent just warm and comfortable).
I used to marvel that I had some how managed to produce such a 'girlie' daughter.She didnt get that from me, how could she.I was quite envious of her for quite awhile.
Truth of the matter is, when I was 15, I was told I was gorgeous and would break afew hearts,only to have mine broken.I decided gorgeous was horseshit and didnt bother with anyone who even mentioned the word.
Better to concentrate on the inside, where I was the real me.The rest was just window dressing, all fake and BS, but if people wanted to like that, then more fool them.
When someone, my sis-in-law, I think, told me "you are so attractive when you wear makeup",I realised that what people look at and admire, is not me at all, but their own concept of what is beautiful.How meaningless!! 'm sure she meant well too.
I'm too practical to be beautiful now.
Now when I get compliments, I know people actually mean them and thank them for them.
Actually, when I went to visit an ol' friend recently, they told me I had a nice figure, which I liked cos I had worked so hard to put weight back on, they got a heartfelt thank you.