Re: How/when do you decide when to tell people you were in Scientology and/or Sea Org
My involvement is plastered all over my google search results, so it's a lost cause already. There definitely exists prejudice, but I find that the more casual you are about it, the more comfortable people are. It helps to be 50+ and be able to refer to it as one of those silly youth things.
What is most important to me is that my family and my husband's family treat me with full respect. I met my husband on ARS many years ago, so he knew from day one
His family I think I had to win over by simply acting like a decent person over time. Sometimes you do have to prove yourself, I find nothing strange in that.
If possible, I wait until I have established some connection to a person before telling them, if at all. I don't go around telling everyone what color underwear I use. Privacy is okay.
Sometimes my experience can be an unforeseen asset, like when I made a new friend a couple of years ago. We didn't talk about Scn. One day she "confessed" that she had been to Narconon over a decade earlier, and it had been one of the most horrible experiences of her life. She did become long term clean and sober through other methods, and it doing just great now, but the Narconon memory haunted her. There was nobody around her who she could talk to who understood. When I said I had been in Scn, I had been in the sauna and done the TRs, but most of all witnessed the greed and the stat push and weird ethics, she looked like a stone fell from her heart.
And it happens that people react in a very strange way.
Once I was at a work party for staff and their spouses. Free drinks and I definitely had much more than I normally do. I was sitting next to this guy who was married to one of the staff, he was the CEO of a medium-sized, well-established company. Your typical guy in a suit. But we were chatting along, and eventually (I don't know how) I was telling him lots about my past involvement in Scn. He really listened, and after half an hour the guy actually cried! Said he wished he could get out of his boring life and have adventures like I had had.
Oh well.
The impression I get is that when people in ordinary life want to fill up a gap in their resumé - prison, rehab, psychiatric treatment - they use "I was travelling" or "living abroad". Not sure though how useful that is if it's a long time period.